How to Establish Financial Security

Question:

rsz_financial_security (2)“I’ve finally got a heart-centered marketing plan for my practice, and I really want to move forward toward creating a financially viable wellness business.  However, I’m not sure that my mindset is there yet.  I still have a lot of fear and anxiety about my finances, and I’m wondering if I’ll ever get to that place of feeling financially secure.”

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How to Attract Clients by Quantifying the Value of Your Work

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Question:

“I’m in a place where most of the time, I know that my services are valuable but, sometimes, I still have doubts and don’t feel as confident as I would like to feel.  Also, I don’t really know how to strongly convey to potential clients the value of what I do — how to measure it.”


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Cultivating Fearlessness: Are You Stretching or Playing It Safe?

rsz_1comfort_zone (2)Question:

“I know that there are actions I’m being called to take to move my business forward, particularly around marketing and selling my services, but I feel so much fear about doing these things, that I just retreat into my “comfort zone”.  Any thoughts about how to deal with this?”

 

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What May Be Preventing You From Attracting New Clients Consistently

rsz_ripe_fruit (2)In my former career as a Director/Manager of Major Gifts for two “big city” hospital foundations (and my work as a fund raising consultant), I was responsible for strategizing and implementing million dollar plus campaigns.  The goal was to inspire targeted, prospective donors to make large donations for specific projects.

A key part of that process was — in professional fund raising jargon — the “cultivation” of these donors.   In business terms, this is known as marketing or as I prefer to call it, “relationship building”, and it is of equal importance to building the sustainability of a business, as it is to a not-for-profit organization.

What I have noticed in my current work as a Business & Prosperity Coach, is that the therapists, coaches, holistic practitioners and wellness professionals who come to me for help are, often, not focusing effectively and consistently on the cultivation of prospective new clients.   In fact, sometimes, there is little cultivation going on at all  – particularly “high-touch” cultivation (more direct and personal).  This step is, more often than not, skipped altogether, with practitioners going directly to making sales offers — predictably, with low response rates.

In my fund raising days, this was called soliciting a donation prematurely (which usually ended up as no donation).  It’s like trying to pick fruit before it’s ripe.   And, while some prospective, new clients are “ripe” for your services and products the moment they discover you, the vast majority need to go through a more personal and direct cultivation and nurturing process with you and your offerings, before they’re sufficiently ripe to invest in your services.

Setting Yourself Up For Success

Regularly scheduled, high-touch, empowerment-based relationship building activities are typically the missing link, externally, for many practitioners when it comes to increasing their client base and filling their programs.  However, before I get into defining what empowerment-based marketing is, it’s important to clarify some issues that need to be addressed, first, in order for this approach to be successful for you.

Some of the missing“foundational” pieces I work on with clients, before developing their relationship building activities, are:

1) Clarifying and defining their authentic community and crafting a powerful marketing message. 

Sometimes, practitioners are marketing their offerings to an audience that’s too broad and generic, or too many different audiences, and do not know, specifically, who their offerings are for, what those individuals are wanting/needing/willing to invest in and how to articulate their marketing message in a compelling way.

2) Developing, shaping, packaging and naming their services in ways that connect with prospective clients.

This is where research — getting information and feedback — is  invaluable.  Once practitioners have clearly identified and articulated who their offerings are for (their authentic community) and what their authentic community members are truly wanting and needing, they can customize their services to provide this and package/name these services more effectively.

3) Clearing feelings of neediness and deprivation. 

Feelings of neediness and deprivation about money and/or clients are, sometimes, what causes practitioners to skip or abandon client cultivation activities and go straight to selling or sending out offers for their paid services.

Client cultivation/empowerment-based marketing is also what I call, “sending energy out and serving”.  When practitioners are experiencing feelings/beliefs around deprivation, they feel depleted and needy, so sending their energy out and serving feels like it’s going to drain them and take them further into deprivation. Chances are they’ll avoid these activities or undertake them with a great deal of attachment and “efforting”.

That’s why it’s essential to find that place of inner fullness and abundance, first,  allow it to nourish them, so they can give consciously and in a balanced way (respect their own needs and limits/not over-extend themselves), and undertake these activities with trust and detachment.

Empowerment-Based Marketing: Effective, Heart-Centered
Client Cultivation
and Nurturing

Empowerment-based marketing is a service-oriented approach to building relationships with your authentic community members by educating, inspiring and, ultimately, empowering them, while connecting them to a specific service or product of yours that addresses more fully what they are wanting and needing.  It is an approach that culminates in service-oriented sales.

Since empowerment-based marketing both educates and inspires, it connects with the head, the heart and, ultimately, the soul of prospective clients.  It provides information and an experience that benefits your community members, inspiring them to find a better way for themselves and make empowered choices.

The most effective forms of empowerment-based marketing are direct and experiential.  Powerful high-touch platforms include getting in front of your authentic community and doing a signature talk, a small “introductory” workshop or webinar/teleclass that delivers great value, while providing a taste or “sample platter” of a specific service you provide.

While there is a lot more involved in doing this effectively than I can go into in this article, I will leave you with a few coaching questions to ponder:

How clear and specific are you about who you serve, what they are wanting/needing and how your services provide this?  Is this reflected upfront and center in your marketing?

How can you develop,  customize, refine, package and name your services and products to provide what your authentic community is wanting and needing?

How can you use service-oriented, empowerment-based marketing to cultivate relationships with your authentic community members and connect them to your services and products?

How can you make high-touch, empowerment-based marketing activities a priority and do them consistently from a place of fullness, abundance and honouring your own energy levels?

I believe that we each have a Divine Plan for our businesses and that all conditions are lined up through this Plan for our full self-expression and success.  As co-creators, our role is to trust the flow and to take inspired, fearless action that demonstrates this trust.  Empowerment-based marketing is an inspired activity that allows us to serve others and fulfill our purpose, while opening up a channel for our supply to come through.

In The Prosperous Healer’s Path™ Business Success Program, I help therapists, coaches, holistic practitioners, and wellness professionals to transform inner blocks to success, identify their authentic communities for their services, articulate powerful marketing messages, customize, package and name their offerings in client-attractive ways and develop empowerment-based marketing activities that bring in a steady stream of clients, with ease and joy.

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Magnetize Clients With Inspired Writing

rsz_magnetize_clients_with_writing (2)My father was, what I affectionately call, a “hoarder”. Amongst other things, he saved his children’s baby teeth, hair and report cards from kindergarten through high school.  Recently, this gave me an opportunity to review my teachers’ comments and get a snapshot of the natural abilities and challenges I’ve had since childhood.

Besides describing me as shy and sensitive, most of my teachers acknowledged my propensity for the written word.  “Mary is showing the beginnings of a writer.  She handles word usage, conversation and plot so well in her creative writing,” said my Grade Two teacher, Mrs. Neatby.

While I may not be a Pulitzer prize-winning author, I’ve always had a natural affinity for writing.  This is why I enjoy using it to build relationships with my authentic community (target market) and promote my business.  Perhaps, writing is an authentic skill for you, too, and, if so, you can use it in many different ways to market your business.

Content Marketing: Providing Valuable Information to Your Community

Writing gives you an opportunity to demonstrate your expertise and raise your visibility and credibility by providing valuable information to your authentic community.   To build relationships with your community members and increase their desire for your offerings, the content of your writing needs to address their key challenges and desires, while highlighting the core benefit of your services and products (as identified in your marketing message).

Writing Platforms That Build Relationships

Besides writing articles and submitting them to publications your community members read, you can also develop other platforms for your content, such as your own e-zine (electronic magazine), blog (weblog) and/or e-book.

E-zines and blogs may seem similar, but there are distinctions between the two, and both can complement and support each other. Basically, they’re different delivery methods for getting information to your community members; some readers may prefer your e-zine, others your blog.  So, if writing is a natural way for you to build relationships, you may want to consider using both.

A blog is:

  • an interactive website that can be easily and frequently updated with dated entries or posts consisting of blocks of content or comments;  and

  • spidered by search engines, so this can increase traffic to your website and raise your search engine rankings, making it easier for your community members to find you online.

An e-zine is:

  • an e-mail message that contains a larger block of content (including an article or articles) — usually produced in an HTML (hyper text markup language) format, with colour and graphics;

  • usually, published less frequently than blog post updates; and

  • not openly available on the web and, therefore, can’t be detected by search engines.

An e-book is:

  • an electronic publication, usually created in a PDF (portable document format).

Start With One Article and Open to Inspiration

Eventually, you can include all of these different writing platforms in your relationship-building strategy, if you resonate with writing and your Guidance leads you to these approaches. However, a simple place to begin may be with a 600 – 1,000 word “signature” article.

To jumpstart your inspiration, connect with your Higher Guidance and ask yourself the following questions:

1. What topic relates most directly to my community’s needs and desires, the core benefit of my offerings and my unique healing process (as captured in your marketing message)?

2. What do I want my readers to take away with them that’s tangible and concrete?

3.  What will give my readers the most value and, at the same time, an experience of the benefits of my services and products?

When you’ve answered these questions, you’re ready to craft a compelling headline, draft an outline of three to five major points you’ll cover and start writing your article.  Be sure to include a copyright notice, your magnetic marketing message with a “call to action” and your website address at the end.

Repurpose Your Writing

Once you’ve completed your first article, you’ll probably have inspired ideas about other topics relevant to your community that you can craft into additional articles. As you build your portfolio, you can repurpose your writing and leverage it.  For example:

  • you can publish your articles in your own e-zine and, also, submit them to other publications your community members read, as well as online article banks;

  • you can segment articles you’ve written for your e-zine into sections, and post one section at a time on your blog, every few days, over the course of a week (this provides you with ready-made content for your blog posts);

  • you can transform blog posts you’ve written about a specific topic into an article for your e-zine;

  • you can reuse the content of your articles for seminars, classes or workshops; or

  • you can take articles you’ve written on specific, related topics and package them together into a small e-book.

Writing is a gateway skill you can use to generate engagement, build relationships with your community members and increase their desire to purchase your products and services.  If writing is natural for you, it can be one of the easy and joyful methods you use to attract prospective clients and develop your healing business.

To learn how to use writing authentically and effectively to attract clients, join The Prosperous Healer’s Path™ Business Success Private Coaching Program or The Prosperous Healer’s Path™ Business Success Group Coaching Program.

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How Boundaries Affect Your Financial Flow and Business Success

rsz_boundaries (2)Question:

“Could you speak to the issue of boundaries, as I’ve come to realize that this is a major issue for me in my relationships with clients and the overall well-being of my business. I know something is “off”, as I feel energetically imbalanced and, at times, drained. Also, I seem to experience unsettling situations that I suspect are related to boundaries, over and over again. I just don’t know where to begin in looking at this. Thank you!”

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Opening the Receiving Door: How to Make it Okay to Sell and Receive Money for Your Healing Services


Question:

rsz_3givingandreceiving“I had the realization, recently, that I spent the first few years of my healing practice seeking validation of the value of what I do and that I’m skilled and competent enough. Although my confidence and trust in my abilities and the value of what I offer has increased, I still have some doubts and find it difficult to sell my services.

I know I’m not doing this as directly and effectively as I could be. For example, I tend to hide myself a lot behind email offers. I think there is some energy block there, still, about the whole process of selling. I feel shy and uncomfortable doing it, so I’m actually avoiding opportunities to sell in a more personal, direct way. I think part of me is hoping my practice will just fill itself without me having to sell.”

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Inspiring Sales Conversations That Enroll Clients

rsz_inspiringsalesconversations (2)At some point in your life, you’ve probably been at the receiving end of a traditional sales pitch and, perhaps, you’ve walked away feeling like the prey of a predatory animal. As someone once commented to me about such an experience, “I felt like I was being devoured!”

With all due respect to predatory animals, approaching the process of exchanging goods and services for money with this kind of energy is unnatural and disempowering for both the seller and the buyer. It injects fear into selling, and this is why many wellness professionals dread the process.

A more uplifting understanding of selling is as follows: selling is a service. It’s expressing love for your community members by inviting them to commit to their own well-being. It’s really not self-serving, because it’s not about you; it’s about the gift of transformation you offer. Selling (or as I prefer to call it, “inviting” or “offering”) is a sacred transaction.

Sharing Your Love and Being of Service

In a sales conversation with a prospective client, you have the opportunity to help that person raise her/his energy vibration, which is actually the true purpose of selling and the first step in the transformational process s/he will undertake with you as a client.

Following these steps will help you engage in an inspiring sales conversation from a place of love and service:

1. Align Your Energy

Before you have a sales conversation, raise your own vibration to a place of connection, service and receptivity. Keep your thoughts and emotions focussed on the Higher Purpose of your business; why you’re selling your product or service; the results you’re passionate about helping your clients experience; and how your product or service will do this.

2. Be Curious (Ask Key Questions and Actively Listen)

Ask key questions that allow the prospective client to see, feel and understand the difference between what s/he is experiencing now and what s/he wants to be experiencing instead. It’s only when we confront the contrast between where we are and where we want to be that we’re willing to make transformative investments that propel us forward.

3. Listen for How You Can Help

When you ask the right questions and listen closely to the prospective client’s answers, you’ll be able to discern exactly how you can help, and respond more effectively and intuitively.

4. Highlight the Benefits/Results of Your Solution

At this point, you want to convey the value or transformation that the prospective client can receive from your service or product (your solution). Highlight the benefits – the specific results or outcomes clients experience through using your service or product. Make sure the prospective client understands the value of what you’re offering before disclosing your price.

5. Find Out What’s Really Going On Behind Objections

Sometimes, a prospective client will say that s/he can’t afford your service or product when s/he is really avoiding making a decision. The best way to respond is directly, by asking if s/he needs more time to make a decision or if s/he really wants to purchase your service or product, but is concerned about her/his cash flow.

If it’s a cash flow issue, check with your Guidance to determine if offering a payment plan is appropriate and create a plan that works for both of you. If s/he really is undecided, commit to helping her/him reach a point of clarity and action, whether that’s a “yes” or a “no”.

6. Support Your Prospective Clients in Making the Highest and Best Decision for Themselves and Detach From the Outcome

Spiritual teacher and author Byron Katie says that there are three types of business in the universe: mine, yours and God’s. She also says that “our stress comes from mentally living out of our own business” (2002, Byron K. Mitchell, Loving What Is).

Committing yourself to helping a prospective client tune into their own Higher Guidance and reach a place of clarity and action is being of service; being attached to the decision s/he makes is being in her/his business. The effect will be separation (i.e., resistance). Choose love and trust instead.

To learn more about how to sell your services and products effectively, in heart-centered ways, enroll in The Prosperous Healer’s Path™ Business Success Private Coaching Program. We’ll co-create an enjoyable, effective process for you that will enroll the number of clients you desire, and I’ll teach you how to have sales conversations that feel natural, relaxed and inspiring.

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The Many Faces of Resistance: How to Spot and Transform What’s Really Keeping Your Business From Thriving

rsz_5resistance_pushing (2)When I was in my early 20s, I spent almost two weeks in bed paralyzed with fear about a pending six-month backpacking trip to Europe, wondering if I should postpone or cancel it. As it was an independent trip where I would be travelling for three months alone (and the rest of the time with my boyfriend), I was petrified about all the uncertainties. Where would I stay? How would I get around? How would I make my backpacker’s budget stretch over six months? I had never gone on such an extensive trip and had never been to countries where English was not the native language.

I went ahead with the trip as planned and, of course, everything not only worked out fine … everything worked out fabulously! I had a blast, and I absolutely loved travelling as a backpacker. It was one of the best things I ever did, as well as subsequent trips.

Thankfully, since that time, I’ve never had to spend a few weeks in bed due to anxiety. Yet, I have experienced numerous other situations where I’ve felt vulnerable and terrified about doing something that felt “risky” and uncertain, including creating two businesses. What I’ve learned (and continue to learn) is how to spot and work through the fears driving different resistant patterns and behaviours that can affect me and my business growth.

From my own experiences and witnessing my clients’ journeys, I’ve been able to discern how the different faces of resistance manifest and their common effects. When these patterns are left unaddressed, they can keep you in a suspended state, avoiding the inspired actions that will allow you and your business to thrive or cause you to take these actions half-heartedly or ineffectively. Ultimately, unresolved resistance keeps you feeling disconnected from yourself, Source, others and the flow, and it keeps you “pushing against” your good, not allowing it to come in.

What Resistance Can Look Like in Relation to Your Business

It can be easy to miss some of the signs of resistance affecting your business, because resistance can hide itself behind many, seemingly, innocuous disguises. Some of the obvious and less obvious signs I’ve detected are as follows:

1.   Being in a perpetual apprenticeship/perfecting your craft phase.

Examples are: seeing yourself or your services as “not good enough yet” to fully market and share with the world, or constantly adding new modalities to your toolkit from chronic feelings of insufficiency.

2.   Procrastination/fear about taking action.

This one speaks for itself. It includes deferring decisions and putting off the actions that will help you and your business to progress. Examples are not getting the help you need to grow your business, not implementing your client attraction plan or doing it inconsistently, or not tracking your business budget/finances.

3.   Having a passive rescue mentality and/or magical thinking.

The underlying and, usually, subconscious beliefs related to this are: “I don’t have to send my energy out and serve and take much or any direct inspired action myself to attract/enroll clients. Someone else will do it for me (i.e., bring clients/referrals to me) without me having to do anything, or clients will just land in my lap, as a result of the law of attraction.”

This is often a simplification/misunderstanding of the law of attraction and resistance to consistently implementing an inspired, effective, high-touch, direct client enrollment plan that is guided by Spirit.

4.   Rationalizing why you can’t do what you know will move your business forward, even though you’ve stated that creating a financially viable business is a top priority for you.

This can take some soul-searching because, sometimes, there are other priorities that actually need to come first. Otherwise, if other things are taking precedence that really need to be shifted to a lower priority, it’s important to look at that. Also, if you are continuously saying you don’t have enough time or money to move your business forward, that’s also a red flag.

5.   Being habitually disorganized, forgetful, bored or impatient.

Not having your life and business (including finances) in a reasonably organized state is often a sign of underlying resistance. Forgetting to do things you’ve committed to do or general forgetfulness is also an expression of resistance. Being bored with what you’re doing or impatient about your business growth can also signify resistance.

6.   Having a scattered focus, scattered energy, falling prey to distractions.

This is evident if you’re spending too much time on activities that are not effective in building more immediate, ongoing financial sustainability in your business – e.g., spending excessive and aimless time on social media, checking/reading emails or surfing the internet.

Also, you may be engrossed in time-consuming projects that don’t provide a reasonable return on investment of your time and resources and don’t move your business forward in a significant way. (This is not the same as spending time, in a balanced way, on self-honouring activities that bring you immense joy, while staying focussed on your business objectives.)

How to Respond to Resistance Skillfully

Here are a few tips to help you deal with the many faces of resistance:

1. Be compassionately honest with yourself. Lovingly break through denial and tell yourself the truth about what you are doing and your feelings/fears.

2. Accept where you are and the patterns of resistance you’ve identified affecting your business without self-recrimination and pushing against where you are (creating more resistance).

3. Discern what’s underneath the fears that are driving the resistant behaviours. Look at any false beliefs that may be underpinning these fears and assess if the compulsion for approval, security or control is at play. Gently challenge these beliefs and release yourself from needing approval, security or control (The Sedona Method).

4. Decide you have something valuable to offer right now, without everything having to be ”perfect”. Decide that you are worthy of succeeding and receiving the support you need to succeed, right now.

5. Make your business success a priority and demonstrate this by how you spend your time/work hours. Prioritize your actions and take the actions that will help your business grow consistently first, such as implementing your client enrollment plan, before doing other things.

6. Choose to be courageous and do the things that scare you. Even if you’re still feeling a bit fearful, “feel the fear and do it anyway”. I guarantee (from personal experience) that you’ll find joy, empowerment and results on the other side.

7. Check in with your own guidance to discern how you can process and dissolve your resistance and develop behaviours that open the channels for your business to thrive.

Metaphysical author Florence Scovel Shinn, says, “All power is given to bring heaven upon earth and this is the goal of the Game of Life. The simple rules are fearless faith, non-resistance and love!”

Learning how to respond to resistance, cultivate non-resistance and move forward with fearless faith is a process that starts with learning how to love and accept ourselves and our fears. As we gradually develop mastery in these areas, it becomes easier to express our gifts in the world, allow ourselves to thrive financially and fulfill our greatest destinies, with ease and joy.

In The Prosperous Healer’s Path™ Business Success Program, I help clients identify and learn how to skillfully transform resistant patterns of thought, feeling and behaviour that are blocking them from fully expressing their healing gifts and taking inspired actions that will enable their businesses to grow and thrive.

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How Feeling Alone Can Limit Client Attraction and Financial Well-being and What to Do About It

rsz_1aloneness (2)Feeling alone or separate is at the core of the imprint we share in this human experience, and this patterning affects all areas of our lives — including our businesses — until we start waking up (i.e., becoming aware and transforming). Looking back on our childhoods, we can usually gain some insight into how and when this separation pattern was instituted in our lives.

For me, I believe it took root in my pre-school years as a habitual emotional response, that was later reflected in life stories well into adulthood. By the time I was three years old, my sisters were in school, my father was at work or otherwise preoccupied, and I was left to a solitary existence at home, alone, with my mother. Aside from my relationships with my sisters, I had little interaction with other children until I started kindergarten.

At school, I was sensitive, shy and introverted, and I always felt a little different — like I didn’t quite fit in and wasn’t “enough”. How I experienced myself – particularly, in relationship to others – would create a sense of “aloneness” that became an unconscious part of my identity until I started waking up.

As an adult, being a people-pleaser/perfectionist, I “did well” externally in my jobs and career, largely, as the result of abandoning myself in some way in order to fit in, perform and gain approval. What was not working was my relationship with myself and, by extension, the disconnection I felt in my personal and professional relationships. The stress and exhaustion of living and working from a false identity, finally, drove me to quit my job fifteen years ago and start out on my own in my first business as a professional fund raising consultant.

Being a solo entrepreneur, I thought I would avoid the politics and dysfunctional dynamics I was part of when I worked for others. What I came face-to-face with was the aloneness story that had been running in the background of my life for many years. How this was acted out in my new business was through my finances and the struggles I had to attract clients back then.

Today, while the alone program is by no means completely reconciled within me (I’m a work in progress, as we all are), I have made much headway in transforming it, through inner work and support from therapists/healers.  I know how to respond skillfully when it shows up, even in its more subtle forms.

In my work with therapists and wellness professionals, the alone pattern often arises at some point during our work together. When it does, we take steps to heal it, while also developing practical, effective, authentic relationship building (marketing) and offering (sales) processes, because all of these are vital to connection, client attraction and financial well-being.

The Effects of Aloneness on Client Attraction and Finances

Aloneness can be beneficial by helping us to connect with our individuality and explore ourselves, but it needs to be tempered with connection with others. For those of us who are sensitive, aloneness can sometimes be used as a buffer protecting us against dense and/or strong energies around us and environments where these energies prevail. The liability with this pattern is that, in business and life, it can feed disconnection that manifests as a lack of clients, lack of funds, debting, underearning, overspending or workaholism.

The more connected we feel to ourselves, the less alone we feel. When we feel disconnected from ourselves, it is often because we are abandoning or not supporting ourselves. Primarily, we do this by judging ourselves, ignoring our own needs (focussing on others’ needs over our own) and repressing or denying our feelings. Judging ourselves is often mirrored in how we judge others, and this separates and disconnects.

From this place, it is difficult to create balanced, meaningful connections and, in the case of our businesses, it is difficult to reach out and create relationships with clients and prospective clients in authentic and healthy ways.

Without awareness, a lack of clients or money can affirm the false belief that we are alone, weird or different and reinforce feelings of separation and disconnection. This is why it’s important to recognize these circumstances, simply, as a symptom of a false belief/feeling pattern, rather than validation of a “truth”.

Ways to Transform the Alone Program

“Ultimately, what we are looking to is the deepest connection within ourselves. As we get more connected to that, we begin to feel in harmony with other people and with the rest of the world.”
                                                                                              — Shakti Gawain

Like all transformation, healing the “alone” pattern takes awareness and patience and is a process that starts with the desire, willingness, commitment and courage to change. Here are some tips and coaching questions to support you with this process:

1) Discern how the alone program may be playing out in your healing business and your life and to what degree. How may it be manifesting in your finances and business? What triggers feelings of aloneness for you?

2) Aloneness is a core feeling and can be felt, habitually, in the body. Where do you feel it in your body, and what does it feel like? What does it look like? What does it sound like?

3) Once you’ve developed an awareness of the feeling of aloneness in your body, you will be able to more easily spot it when it arises and allow yourself to release it. A simple and powerful releasing tool is The Sedona Method, which uses an inquiry process. “Could you allow the feeling of aloneness to be here? Could you let it go? Would you let it go? When?” The Sedona Method also addresses and reconciles basic wants such as the want to be separate (alone) and the want to be one (connected) – polarities that can keep us spinning mentally and emotionally.

4) Work on clearing your judgements about yourself and others. Byron Katie’s The Work inquiry process and Judge Your Neighbour/Judge Yourself worksheets are favourite tools of mine for this.

5) Visualize yourself connecting heart-to-heart, authentically (i.e., being yourself) with prospective clients and professional partners, listen for inspiration/Higher guidance about how to do this, then take action to reach out.

As we develop ways to support ourselves, such as doing this inner work and changing habitual mental and emotional responses, we feel more connected and less alone. This enables us to connect easily and joyfully with prospective clients, draw in the clients we’re meant to serve, have healthy and balanced relationships with them and enjoy satisfying, creative and financially abundant businesses.

In The Prosperous Healer™ Inner Mastery Sessions, I help clients access the habitual mental and emotional patterning of aloneness and other programs that are affecting their ability to attract clients and flourish financially, de-link and release the neuro-net pathways of those patterns and install a new, healthy, embodied sense of connection with themselves and others.

If you are interested in finding out more about this service, please contact me at marycdavis@theprosperoushealer.com.

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